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Some advice to creating that perfect friendship without putting yourself in danger. The heart can often rule the mind, when meeting somebody new caution is advised. Remember that common sense is your best tool, on and off line.

1. Start Slow
Communicate via for the first few emails, if all is well use your own email address. Look for odd behaviour and inconsistencies to stories, times and dates. Are they hiding something or trying to manipulate you. A conversation is two way, you should know as much about them as they know about you. Trust your instincts, if things do not add up, it is generally wrong. The right person will appreciate that you are taking your time and you should accept if they wish to take things slower than you.

2. Protect your anonymity
It is easy to give away too much information over an email. You must not mention your phone number, home address, place of work or any other location that will give away your identity. Stop communicating with anyone who pressures you for personal details. The other person does not need to know until the first meeting, and only then if it is OK by you.

3. Request a photo
Requesting a photo is usually a good idea, especially if they do not already have one uploaded to . You want to know what they look like, before you meet, not knowing will only create confusion on your first meeting. Remember beauty is only skin deep, the most beautiful people often have bad personalities. Ask how old the picture is, you might be meeting a 65 year old who sent you a picture when they were 18 years old. It has happened before, don't let it happen to you.

4. Talk on the phone
A phone call can tell you allot about a person. Their tone, use of language, communication and social skills can all give warm feelings about a person. Be cautious about giving out your phone number, use a mobile (cell) phone. Use telephone blocking techniques to hide your phone number. Only give out your phone number when you feel comfortable about the other person.

5. Meet when YOU are ready.
No matter what the other person says, only meet when you are ready. You never are obligated to meet anybody, no matter how intimate you get online. Only proceed when you are ready, if you are not ready keep the mystery up a little longer. If you do arrange to meet you can always cancel, change your mind for a day when you are more ready. Listen to your instincts!

6. Look out for warning signs.
Warning signs are very important, do they try and control you? Make you do or say thing you do not want to do. Do they show signs of anger, intense frustration or pressure you. Is their email persona different from their phone personality. Do they cut phone calls short without warning? Is the information they tell you inconsistent. If any of this has happened walk away.

7. Meet in a safe place
Always inform a friend where you are going and who with. Give them your dates contact information and tell them when you will be back. Arrange for them to phone you half way through the date to ensure all is going well, if not have a back up plan. Never get the date to pick you up, from home, work or the bus stop! Meet in a public place where you can ensure people are going about their daily business. Meet for mid-day lunch, so you are not going to run out of day light hours and you have more time to get to know one another. If you do decide to move to another location take your own transport and be cautious that you are not being manipulated into a situation you cannot get easily get out of. Once the date is near its conclusion, thank your date and say goodbye. If your date went well and you want to see the other person again, then contact them again and arrange a second date on a more casual basis.

8. Use a little common sense
We cannot talk enough about common sense. Do not fall instantly in love at the click of a mouse. Any suitor will have to earn you trust though time and vica-versa. Do not risk your safety, take your time and observe all the signs. Be cautious about how quickly you get intimate with your date and going past the point of no return. Do not forget about sexually transmitted diseases, especially with somebody you barely know.

9. An extra bit of security
If you feel under pressure from your date, make your excuses and leave. Take time out and phone a friend for advice. If you feel threatened, phone a friend to come and get you, or ask a stranger for help. If this fails call the police. You will not look stupid and there is no need to feel embarrassed. Your safety is far more important.

You will meet liars, cheats and impostors in all walks of life. Although allot use the web, just as many use nightclubs, pubs/bars and other social functions to create havoc in peoples life. Dating will never be risk free, but using a bit of caution will help protect matters of the heart.